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Tuesday, April 28, 2020

SPEND LESS THAN YOU EARN

April 28, 2020 0
SPEND LESS THAN YOU EARN

SPEND LESS THAN YOU EARN

Money is wealth. When we have money, we have the power to do the things that we want. We can buy new clothes, buy new phones. We can buy any material things that we want.

That is of course if we have money.

The more that we want, the greater the money that we need.

Back in my school days, my parents always told me to finish my studies and get a job so that I could have my own money to buy the things that I want.

During those days, it was like me wanting to have a time machine, go to the future, get a job, earn money, and do what my parents told me.

I still remember when I was in 4th grade when my friends introduced me to a new racing game called Tamiya race cars. I was so hooked with the game that I even begged for my parents to give me money to buy the toy but instead, they give me lectures.

Our financials back then was not that good. I never even imagined how my parents reached this far to raise us.

GOING FORWARD

As my parents used to say, "You can buy anything you want when you have your own money."

Imagine yourself, wanting so many things when you where young but your parents would not want you to. A bit harsh, don't you think?

Lucky for the kids nowadays, that they just have to cry and their parents would buy them what they want or just wait for their birthday and they could have a brand new phone. Such a wonderful life kids have nowadays. Damn! I'm seriously envy .

Way back then, it felt like passing through a needle hole just to have what you want.

But now is different. I am in control of my life, I have my financial freedom and I can buy all the things I want now.

Oh yeah! I'll buy all the toys that I want. All the video games that I've never played before, buy all the candies that I want! Nobody could stop me!

Funny but my life is no longer as I was a kid.

Have I not enjoy a meaningful life in the past? Still now, I am thinking of it.

Reflecting on how my life was back in the past. I was thinking, maybe my parents aim to teach me the value of money? And the reason why they don't want me to have all the things I want is that they don't want me to develop a habit of being a compulsive buyer.

Compared to many of whom I've met, my life is so different from them especially when it comes to financial handling.

I admit I am still living with my parents even after I am married but it is not the reason why I've never been in debt. The reason is, I know the value of hard-earned money and I know how to spend it wisely.

     Hey! Please read a little bit background of my life on my previous post to know me better.

Listening and looking at my parents, I am still puzzled if they intended to program me to be like this when it comes to handling money by means of not giving me everything that I want.

Yes, it is a bit harsh that I did have the things that I want when I was a kid but I sure don't want the experience of not controlling my expense habit like the rest.

MY FATHER IS A STORYTELLER

My father is twice my age and as they say, "experience is the best teacher."

So what do you expect, more meaningful stories of his life!

Unlike many young ones, I love listening to elderly stories especially when it comes to history, personal development, and wealth.

My father usually talks about wealthy people who've he met during his younger years who are now broke. I know it's a bit negative conversation to have but it is a piece of good indirect advice coming from people with experience.

Most of his stories are sons and daughters of a successful businessman, some are the owner of a bus company, famous fast-food chain, millionaire retiree, and even politicians.

He usually starts his stories on how their life was so good back then. Having a good meal to eat, have fancy clothes to wear and can attend to e extravagant events. Not until these people become miserable because they value their money. Some have been exposed to gambling, some have used to pay many loans and some have over the expense of what they have. All leading to debt.

At the end of his story. He will always remind me that, "It is an honor to be born poor or rich and die as a wealthy man than to be born poor or rich and die as a poor man." (inter-twined with pride of living a life of dignity)

Saturday, March 28, 2020

STOP BLAMING OTHERS AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS

March 28, 2020 0
STOP BLAMING OTHERS AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS
📷Siavash Ghanbari 
We are a part of a community whether it be a circle of friends, a group or a team. Either it is small or large in number it will always be a community. We humans can never live alone.

Being a part of a community, problems are always rising. The bigger the community, the bigger the problem. The proportion of problems and community will always be the same.

And having such a problem means people would find someone to blame.

We could not deny that this trait exists in all of us.

Experiencing being blamed

It sucks being blamed, especially if you are being blamed all the time. If you have never experienced it before then consider yourself lucky that you have a good community but if you have gone through it, I say I know how it feels like.

I hate it when I am being blamed for things that I am not accountable for. It felt like being robbed of my self-esteem. But what I hate the most is that I allowed myself to be blamed. I allowed myself to be weak with my reasoning.

The Great Shamers

Best way to describe shamers are those persons who are expert in judging and finding faults.

I categorize them into two types; the main-shamer and the secondary-shamer.

  • Main-shamer is those who you are working with, consider them as the leader of the group. They tend to pass the blame to their members when things do not into their favor.
  • Secondary-shamer is those who are not affiliated with but tend to criticize you. They are those who tend to know everything about you. What do with shamers gain from blaming others?
I have listed below some of the benefits that shamers gain from blaming others. The list is self-explanatory.

  1. They need an excuse or a scapegoat of why something had happened. 
  2. They want to preserve their ego.
  3. They don’t want to be criticized.
  4. They want to be superior by lowering other's self-esteem.
  5. It removes inhibition.
Dealing with the Great Shamers

Dealing with them is not easy but here are some basic tips that may help you along the way.

  1. Never put your emotion on the conversation.
  2. Never raise your voice. You do not win an argument by raising your voice.
  3. Trust your instinct and common sense. You know more about yourself than others. Ask yourself if the statement blamed at you is your fault. If not raise a reasonable statement.
  4. Remember that first impression last. Once you encountered a shamer, they will always be the same. A criminal will always be a criminal and that same goes with the shamer.
  5. Avoid them as possible. Never be near with persons who will put negativity in your life.
  6.  Always be in a positive attitude.
The funny part of being a shamer is that they never learn. When they are group together and started blaming at one another they are like dogs fighting with each other and stops when someone gets hurt.

But hey! There is a benefit when you encounter a shamer!

Being blamed has its own benefits. Just be conscious that not all the blame being accused to you is your fault. Here are some of the few observations that I personally gained after dealing with them.

  1. It has tested my patience.
  2. It thought me how to react properly and deal with the current situation.
  3. It thought me how to observe and read other people’s behavior.
  4. It gave me a better perception of how I should pick my friends.

Friday, February 28, 2020

WHAT SHOULD I DO WITH MY LIFE

February 28, 2020 0
WHAT SHOULD I DO WITH MY LIFE
📷 Japheth Mast
Our lives are meant for something. We have our purpose and that is why we are here. But what if one day we never woke up from our sleep?

This is just one of those vague questions that makes me feel uncertain. Asking myself, what if I never enjoyed life? What if I never meant for something but I was not able to achieve it?.

As I am afloat finding answers to my question, I was unconsciously listening to some motivational dialogues when suddenly a question popped out questioning myself, "What are you doing now? Are you going on the right path to where you wanted to be? What have you achieved right now?" and at that moment I was left in silence. It made me realize that I had a dream and I just wasted decades wasting my life of not chasing my dreams.

PASSION OR CAREER 


Choosing between passion or career is a difficult question especially we don’t have all the same economic status. Some may be on top of others while others may be below.

We all want the same thing and that is to do the things that we love. We don’t want things that make us feel depressed.

Then again, it doesn’t go to all of us. Some of us have some priorities in life; taking care of the financial income of the family, being the breadwinner and more.

Frankly speaking, most of us prefer a career for personal reasons regardless of how difficult it may be to work with a job that you do not like.

83% of US workers are stress with their job. ~ tinypulse

That’s a huge number compared to people who enjoy their job.

Ideally, everyone wants to pursue their passion. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to have your own company or become a freelancer but to have a job that you truly enjoy.


THE FEAR OF TRYING

Talking and listening to other people’s stories is my favorite pastime. Especially to stories related to personal experience, horrifying experiences and aspiring dreams.

When I’m with my friends especially those who are younger than me and they started talking about their own goal in life, I always try to listen. I always said to myself, “This seems interesting”, and I would just sit and listen.

There was one time that my friend opened up that he needs extra income to support his family. On that day we had a little conversation and we talked for hours coming up with an idea and then finally something came up. “Why not try opening a mini grocery in your place? And while you work at the office you let your wife take care of it.” We both think that it was a wonderful idea and I even added that if he needs a capital I could lend him a bit of money to start his venture.

After a few days, we met again. Have a little talk about our previous discussion and he opened up that his wife would not agree to that idea because of so many reasons. To avoid confrontation with her wife he set aside the idea and goes back to where he started.


Fear is the reason why borders exist. Fear hinders us to see the future. We are human and we are limitless.

Just look at the kids, because they don’t know the meaning of losing they always achieve what they want. Their imagination is their guide and eagerness to achieve it is what drives them to achieve it.

We don’t want to be in the same situation over and over again without knowing what may be the outcome of our desires. We always want to change and make progress in our life.

WHERE DO I START

There is no definite answer to such questions it's like counting the stars in the night without blinking your eyes. There are many possible answers but it is unsure of those is the best answer.

So what is the best solution?

The only solution for a doubtful answer is to sit and not take action. Sometimes the only course of action to solve a particular problem is not doing anything. Let your mind wander and it will find its own solution.

Do not overthink! Because it would only lead to self-doubt.

Never procrastinate! Because your brain may trash your idea.

Once your brain gives you a good idea, immediately take action. You are only given 5 seconds to react else your brain would flush it out. Time is everything.

SO WHAT IS MY POINT

My point is, do not waste your time. Your time is your life.

Make it worth it! Make it meaningful!

Do not waste it on things that make you useless.

If you sleep for more than 8 hours, Make it at most 8!

If you watch TV for more than 4 hours, read a book instead.

If you spend more than an hour on social media, put down your phone and go out with your friends and be socialized.

You are blessed with life to breathe, make it worth it.

Sunday, January 12, 2020

YOUR VALUE DOES NOT DECREASE BASED ON SOMEONE'S INABILITY TO SEE YOUR WORTH

January 12, 2020 0
YOUR VALUE DOES NOT DECREASE BASED ON SOMEONE'S INABILITY TO SEE YOUR WORTH
📷 Helena Lopes
Before we dive into the discussion. Let us first define what it means by "Value".

According to Wikipedia,
     "denotes the degree of importance of something or action, with the aim of determining what actions are best to do or what way is best to live (normative ethics), or to describe the significance of different actions."

According to Merriam-Webster
     "relative worth, utility, or importance"

A SHORT STORY

An old man wants to put a portrait of his family on the wall. Immediately he got a nail but could not find his hammer. He searched for his hammer in the storage but could only see that he could use was his joiner’s mallet, bumping hammer, nail gun. So disappointed but wants to put a nail on a wall he used a joiner's mallet but the mallet broke. He then used the bumping hammer, he was able to push the nail but later the nail bent. The old man was frustrated because of the nail that bent that he decided to postpone his project. The following day, he accidentally found his hammer and pulled out the nail. He immediately replaced the nail with a new one and finally, he was able to hang the frame on the wall.

REFLECTION

Like the story. We may compare ourselves to the Hammer, others as the Old man, the nail as the circumstances and how the different hammer was used was our Values.

The Joiner's mallet. The joiner's mallet easily broke as the old man used it as a regular hammer. We sometimes enter into a situation where we are willing to help but instead we make the situation worse. We have the right attitude but it was not yet necessary as of the moment.

The Bumping hammer. There are times when our friends need help and we want to offer them some help and advice to ease their burden. At first, we are confident that we could help them but as we continue to help it became harder until it fails.

The Hammer (Claw Hammer). There are cases that only you and or you are the only one willing to do the task but most likely you are one of the few that has the right quality or capability as needed as of the moment.

A BIT OF REALIZATION

We, humans, are born unique. We came from different places with different cultures, characteristics, habits, and tradition and we could not deny the fact that we are incompetent in some ways but in some ways we are excellent. But we will always have something in common - it is Values.

Because we came from different cultures, we do not expect that we could get along with others. There may be chemistry in some but there will always be a conflict or misunderstanding in some cases. We are not perfect and nobody is perfect. We strive to be the best.

Values are not diminished, decrease or useless but rather it was not what is needed as of the moment. We do not all have the necessary values for every situation. We always lack something and that is where others come in to supplement that piece.

A WORD OF THOUGHT

Our values will always supplement others in times of need. It does not decrease, it is just from the perspective of others that it decreases but because there are things that they need. It is natural for us humans to have a good result and to have a good result we need the right man for the job. There will be time(s) that you will be badly needed that even those who are the best would point out that you are the right man for the job.

If you think have lesser value. Think, we are human beings are one of the few creations of God who are versatile. We can adapt and change to what we want to be. It is just a matter of who we choose to become and take action.

Wednesday, October 30, 2019

HOW SIMPLICITY CHANGED MY WAY OF LIVING AND WHY YOU SHOULD ALSO DO THE SAME

October 30, 2019 0
HOW  SIMPLICITY CHANGED MY WAY OF LIVING AND WHY YOU SHOULD ALSO DO THE SAME
📷 Robert Bye
"Material things don't guarantee happiness.
Infact, it is often a picture of an unsatisfied life."

What is the difference between Simplicity and Minimalism?

Often we are confused with the word Simplicity and Minimalism. We think that these words are the same but they are not.

These words may have a similar concept but in particular, they have a different approach.

When we talk about minimalism, we talk about lessening the quantity. We strip off unnecessary elements until we are only left with parts that are only needed. Minimalism usually starts externally meaning we de-clutter ourselves from material possession which later progresses towards our mentality (de-cluttering the mind.)

"Being a minimalist means you value
yourself more than material things."
~ Brian Gardner

Simplicity is cored on the internal aspect of oneself. The reduction of complexity. The mind focused on what is valuable. It is a guiding principle that helps the individual to create spaces that is self-sufficient - inspiring, supportive and healthy.

"Not what we have, but what we enjoy,
Constitutes our abundance”
~ Epicurus

Did you know?

The word Minimalism was coined by an Architect named Ludwig Mies van der Rohe.


When I was young we used to live in a populated area. Kids playing all day and you will always see people walking the street.

We were considered poor but somehow above poverty since my parents can provide us with decent food.

My parents always do their best to provide us our needs even though sometimes it is not that easy.

It was not until at the age of 8 that we are forced to leave the place because the land were we are living was sold.

During those times, I thought that our lives would be ruined since we have no home to transfer to. With God pure grace we landed into a good community that is more settled to live in.

"The Lord will provide”
~ Genesis 22:14

Going back, my parents especially my father who is very good with academics once told me to study so that I could have a good grade and have a good job. My father always fuel me with ambition and desires to have a good life through academics since academics was his forte.

Years after. I have finished college, got a decent job and started earning money for my own. Yes, I was quite happy that I am now earning money for myself and not be a burden to my family. I even went to get a master's degree after a year.

WHAT MADE UP MY MIND

It was during those days when I was taking my master's degree when we’re having a discussion about life and economy that I realized that I don't want to have a complicated lifestyle.

Honestly, I am bad at making a decision when there are many options to choose from. It could take me hours just to make a decision.

Giving a solution to my problem. I decided to slowly eliminate things that would give less value to my life or things that complicate my life. One of them was giving up my master's degree.

I know, many of you would think that I am a fool that I gave up my education. I even considered what my father would think about my selfish decision.

I know that he wanted me to have a good life and wanted to no longer experience what we experience in the past. But taking a masters degree is not the only way to elevate myself from poverty. I also want to be a successful man someday but I don't think academic is the right path for me.

"Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all you might."
~ Ecclesiastes 9:10

Other than my education, I decided to gave up many of my apparels. I gave away some of my clothing to those in need and some are sold at a very cheap price. The same goes for my shoes and books. I also lessen my connection with the people around me. I used to have many people around me but most of them are not friends but merely acquaintances.

Other things that I decided to give up or lessen.
     1. Travelling
     2. Eating at the food chain
     3. Going to the mall without a purpose
     4. Shopping

During the process I started to see changes in my life. Here are some of the benefits I gained after sometime.

1. Increased in Savings

Before I was not able to save money. I used to buy things impulsively if not I buy it for others. I even used to hang in pub with my friends even if there's no special occasion and eat meals outside.

Now, before I buy my stuff I carefully spend a week or two thinking before I go to the store and place an order. I don't want to regret buying an item that later would be placed in a corner unused. Unless it is an emergency and badly needed.

Also, I now prefer eating meals at home unless it is necessary for me to eat outside. Not only that it is healthy and clean but it is cheaper.

2. Improved Focus

With all the unnecessary items gone. I am now able to attend to a specific matter at a time giving myself more productivity in everything that I do.

Ideas that constantly pops out of my mind lessen and replaced with ideas that contributes more to what I am aiming to finish.

3. Better health condition

Ideas. It can either be healthy for an individual or fatal.

Numerous ideas gives you stress. In fact, the majority of those ideas do not contribute to your welfare. They are just things that cluttered your mind that doesn't help you to finish on what you are doing.

Saying NO to some and only minding those that are necessary not only improves focus but also lessen the stress leaving the mind to work at ease.

"A sound mind is in a sound body."

4. Found Passion

It was not later last year that I have truly found what I want to do in life. Being empty with all my WANTS gave me such an opportunity in life. It made me realize that what I currently have does not give me the enjoyment that I am seeking.

Honestly, finding my passion was not that easy because I am blinded with false ambition and desires.

5. Gained fewer but real friends

As they say, "The more the merrier". But this is not what I though it would be.

During my journey from extravagant to simple living, it was hard to find friends who are not into spending money when doing activities. It made me realized that many of my friends are too attached to money when hanging out.

6. Relationships become more deep and meaningful

The quality of a relationship depends on the attention being given. Lessening yourself from distraction gives you more opportunity to learn more about the people around you.

"Trust actions not words"

Give importance to the people around you. Never isolate yourself.

FINAL THOUGHT

Living a simple life is not easy for we are easily corrupted. There will always be a set back that you have resolve. Also, it is a slow process but with great outcome.

I admit that there are minor times that I violate my own rule but I make sure that it doesn't not goes beyond a certain point.

Currently, I am still in the process of simplifying my lifestyle but as to what I have done the return is more than I expected. I started to see opportunities that comes in which before I was not able to see maybe because I was too pre-occupied.

Monday, August 5, 2019

WHY I PREFERRED TO CREATE A NEW DESIGN AND HOW IT TURNED OUT GREAT

August 05, 2019 0
WHY I PREFERRED TO CREATE A NEW DESIGN AND HOW IT TURNED OUT GREAT
"Climbing the spotlight - The commitment of every
lineman to keep that lights on in good and bad times."

It started when a friend of mine that I used to work, who is now working in other power utility, requested to make her a custom tees for retiree lineman as token gratitude for their contribution to their company.

At first, I was struggling. I don't have any idea and I don't know where to start. Not to mention that I have limited time to produce the actual product.

Luckily, she assisted me and we come up with a design with a simple but very appealing design that even the other employee requested to have their shirt.

THE NEW DESIGN

It is my routine to post photos of my recent projects to my social media accounts. It didn't take long until some of my friends saw my post and asked if they could order the same shirt.

I know it is not appropriate to reproduce the shirt even if it is in demand, its exclusivity is for the other company. I know you know what I mean. So what I did is to create another somehow similar design but with a more powerful statement that would, they would surely appreciate.

THE PROCESS

The new design now in full-size shirt and more detailed. Making its full size is not that easy especially if vinyl is your medium. It would consume almost 80% of your time from peeling every detail until you have the final image.

Imagine if you have more than 5 tees to work on. You know what I mean. Lucky for me I only cater a few per day since I work in the morning and the only time I can work is after my working hours.

THE FINAL PRODUCT
FINAL DESIGN
It almost took me half an hour to finish a single shirt. A total painstaking task but once I was done, it felt a total satisfaction. The tedious process pays off! The quality is so clean that it can be compared to those quality shirts you bought in the mall.

Monday, July 1, 2019

PAPER CRAFT - 10 MUST HAVE CRAFTING TOOLS AND SUPPLIES FOR BEGINNERS

July 01, 2019 0
PAPER CRAFT - 10 MUST HAVE CRAFTING TOOLS AND SUPPLIES FOR BEGINNERS

Ever imagined what it would be like if you'd created an invitation for your kids' party without the proper crafting tools? Too difficult, right? Also, it would be a disappointment if things didn't work out as you planned. Surely you don't want to be ashamed of your guests as they receive your invitation.

Every craftsman needs a proper tool for every project. Crafting tools help us make our project with ease, precise and neat. With this, we can make a simple project into a masterpiece that our guests would surely appreciate.

Here is the list of my top 10 crafting tools that would help you improve your paper crafting skills.

1. Cutting Tool

When working with paper, precision with cutting is a must. Specific cutting tools for a different project is essential. Knowing what cutting tools to use makes it easier for a project to be done. Furthermore, there are cutting tools like decorative scissors that can produce a different pattern. Other cutting tools like cutter, precision knife, and rotary cutter can be used to cut a straight path with ease.

2. Writing Materials

Writing materials, I usually break into two categories; Decorative which focuses on aesthetic while the Technical focuses on layout and sketching, particularly pencils and temporary markers. Some commonly used Decorative writing materials for crafting are crayons, coloured pens, and markers which greatly help in giving life to any project.

3. Measuring Tools

There are many types of measuring tools available in the market, depending on the project you are working with, you will need a certain type of measurement guide. Measuring tools come in different shapes and sizes but the most commonly used are Desk ruler, L-Square, Triangle and T-Square. Measuring tools also serve as a cutting guide in some cases.

4. Adhesives

Adhesives are basically used to bond objects together. When working with different kinds of paper you will need the right adhesive to keep it secure. Craft adhesives are not limited to glues but also tape similar to washi tapes.

5. Papers

The most commonly used medium in arts and crafts. Depending on the type of paper, you can make multiple projects like Papier-mâché, Origami, Quilling, Paper flower, Cards. Just be sure to invest in the right paper material when working with paper projects.

6. Cutting Mat

Working with paper and cutters will surely leave a scratch. Cutting mat are very useful when pinning, marking and cutting your project keeping your table scratch-free. In addition, it also helps your blades sharpness last longer than directly cutting on any surface.

7. Tweezers

Though tweezers are not the most commonly used tool in crafting it's always better to have one available. Tweezers are a great help when working with very detailed projects especially if it includes tiny objects. Also, tweezers are perfect tool to pick objects that are easily damaged by handling.

8. Punchers

Basically, regular punchers are used in creating paper holes. With craft punchers, you can instantly make an easy-cut pattern. It is the best tool to create multiple patterns like flowers, cute animals and basic shapes.

9. Twine and Ribbons

Twine and ribbons can be used in a wide variety of paper projects. It can be either used as a decorative piece or to tie objects together. Depending on your purpose, consider twine and ribbons when crafting especially with card making, scrapbooks and other simple projects like bookmarks, it will definitely accent.

10. Paper Clips

On personal preferences, paper clips are best used in grouping paper projects. Clipping paper together greatly helps in making things much easier and organized as you continue working with the project.

Now that you know what proper tools to be used, you can now take your project to the next level. Though there will be some changes with the list as you continue with your paper craft project, it is best to start with this list.